Advice For Guys In Turbulence:
We've all been there. that relationship has gotten dicey. She's got that irritated, all business face going on and she's making crazy talk like you're not going to be together anymore. You just want you're life back. You still love her no matter what but what can you do, caught in a devastating storm as you're relation-ship is about to crash and break apart on the rocky shoals ahead, leaving you to drown in the freezing cold and darkness?
First of all, calm down. Grab a life preserver. * And don't let go of it. But it's not Her.
She's riding the same ship you are, dude. Find something else to keep you afloat in the event the ship does hit the rocks and break apart. But fear not. You can swim, brother. But hopefully it won't come to that. Follow these life saving tips and you may yet sail around this sharp reef and continue your voyage together on the love boat. May you find paradise. Aloha!
#1). Stay calm and keep your dignity. Your going to need it. It's amazing what a regal bearing does for you in the midst of adversity. Women can't help but be attracted to it, and likely it's whatever she saw in you in the first place.
#2). Try harder and then do it. I'm not talking anything crazy like 100% more effort, 300x, etc...I mean realistically, try about 25-30% harder every day, be it whatever it was you were having the disagreement on the fist place. She wants stuff done, you know what it is. Make a concerted effort to try harder, and if you really do it, you'll see results.
#3). NO DRAMA. I can't stress this enough, especially if this is what or how they are expecting you to respond to a break up. You're a man and you keep calm in actual emergencies. Women and children would depend on you to stay calm in a fire or terror event and save them. Well my friend, you must save yourself this time if you are to have any hope of saving your relation-ship. And to do that, you must be and stay calm. Women hate drama. They hate threats, be they hypothetical, actual, passive, or especially, aggressive. They hate all that dumb teenage boy shit of " I'm gonna self destruct to teach you a lesson for not loving me" whole scenario...so played out, been there done that so many times, it's ugly and excessive and counter productive to Love...just don't.
#4) Keep your words and actions simple, fair, and without blame. Do not bring up old wounds or accusations. Stay focused on your plan for what to do afterwards in case this ship does run aground...this is the life preserver I mentioned earlier. By being ready and taking care of yourself, you'll be in a much better position as far as seeing when to steer clear of the jagged reefs ahead, and will inspire much more confidence in Her not jumping into the life rafts and abandoning ship.
pt 1. of Advice For Guys In Turbulence by Aaron McNees
....pt 2 coming after these messages.